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A Mom's Job

Most Mothers’ Days the sermon tells us how we should honor our mothers while on Father’s Day the sermon tells dads they need to be doing a better job.

We love on the moms and beat up on the dads.

I think it is time someone did some beating up on the moms.

So, men, put your hands over your ears and go “la la la”

I am not talking to you.

What is a Mother?

What does a mother do?
What is her job?
Why is motherhood so important, anyway?

That depends on whether you believe in evolution or creation.

Evolution says:

There is no God. So…·

  • There are no rules.
  • There is no right or wrong.
  • “Proper” roles are decided by society.
  • What is “right” for you may not be right for me.
  • Set your own standards.
  • Find your own path.
  • Follow your heart.
  • Look out for number one.
  • Survival of the fittest.
  • If it feels right do it.
  • Live for today.
  • Have fun while you can.
  • You are what you wear, drive, live in or vacation at.
  • He who dies with the most toys wins.
  • We are more advanced today.
  • We know better now.
You know, the snake’s lie: 
“Ye shall be as gods, knowing (and deciding for yourselves) good and evil.” 
Genesis 3:5


A Mother’s Job is to Birth babies, and nothing else, because our society has decided

“It Takes a Village to Raise a Child.”

Not antiquated ideas like “Parents”.


The Christian view?

  • “In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth.” Genesis 1:1
  • “The Fool says in his heart there is no God.”Psalms 14:1
There is a God. He is all knowing, all-powerful, all loving and has a plan for the universe. He has made certain rules for us to follow for our own good. Not because He hates us or wants to spoil our fun; but because He knows what is best in the long run.


Let’s take those evolutionary ideas one at a time

There are no rules

  • “If ye love me, keep My commandments.” John 14:15
If we love God we will follow His rules.

There is no right or wrong

What is “right” for you may not be right for me.

  • Exodus 20- The Ten Commandments
1) You shall have no other gods before Me. (Nothing should be more important than God)
2) You shall not make for yourself any idol. (Don’t worship anything other than God)
3) You shall not misuse the name of the LORD your God.
4) Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy. (Set aside one day to worship God and fellowship)
5) Honor your father and your mother (Not teachers, government officials, or other authorities, but your parents)
6) You shall not murder.
7) You shall not commit adultery.
8) You shall not steal.
9) You shall not give false testimony against your neighbor. (Don’t gossip)
10) You shall not covet

These rules are universal. They apply to everyone.

“Proper” roles are decided by society

  • “So God created (hu)mans in His own image, in the image of God created He (them); male and female created He them.”
One human could not contain the whole image of God. It takes two. God intentionally made us male and female. It was no accident.

He could have made us unisex, like the snail, but He didn’t.

He made both men and women in His image, but in the image of different parts of Himself.
  • Men are created in the image of the strong, logical, competitive part of God. Men needed this in order to conquer the wild animals, enemy humans, and elements necessary for survival. He has an overwhelming instinct to protect those weaker than himself.
  • Women are created in the image of the gentle, nurturing, intuitive part of God. They are made to notice and care for the beautiful parts of life. This part of God is what makes life worth living; the part that made flowers and fluffy clouds.
This means men and women have very different roles to play. Both are vitally important, even equally important. But they are very different.

“I will praise thee for I am fearfully and wonderfully made … My substance was not hid from thee when I was made in secret and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Thine eyes did see my substance.”
Psalms 139:13-16

You are not who you are by accident. God planned it from the very creation of the world.
If He made you a woman, that is what you need to be to do His will in your life. It was not a biological accident.

“See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the basic principles of this world rather than on Christ.” Colossians 2:8

Don’t be fooled by worldly ideas and traditions. Don’t follow worldly principles.

“Don't you know that when you offer yourselves to someone to obey him as slaves, you are slaves to the one whom you obey–whether you are slaves to sin, which leads to death, or to obedience, which leads to righteousness?”
Romans 6:16

If you serve fashion you will be a slave to fashion.
If you serve your entertainment you will be a slave to your entertainment.
If you serve Christ, you will be a slave to Christ.

“The student is not above his teacher: but every one that is educated shall be as his teacher.”

Are you learning how to behave and make decisions based on “society?” You will become just like society.

“And he spake a parable unto them, Can the blind lead the blind? Shall they not both fall into the ditch?”

This world is blind. They refuse to see Christ. If you follow them, you will end up in the same fiery ditch.

“And the LORD God said, ‘It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.’” Genesis 2:18

God had a job for Adam to do. He could not do it alone. He needed help.

“For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.”

A woman’s job is to help her husband. That is the biblical purpose in her life. Not the other way around as it is in so many homes today.

If hubby is a preacher, than wifey is called to be a preacher’s wife.
If hubby is a truck driver than wifey is called to be a truck driver’s wife.
If hubby is a banker, than wifey is called to be a banker’s wife.

“Unto the woman he said, ‘I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.’”
Genesis 3:16

The woman was going to have children before the Fall. Now it is going to hurt. Man was going to be the head of the house before the Fall. Now it was going to annoy her.

“And unto Adam He said, ‘…cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life; thorns also and thistles shall it bring forth to thee; and thou shalt eat the herb of the field; in the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground; …’”
Genesis 3:17-19

Man had work before the Fall. Now it was going to be harder and less productive. He isn’t going to enjoy it as much.

“Adam called his wife’s name Eve; because she was the MOTHER of all living.”
Genesis 3:20

Adam named his wife “Mother” before she had even given birth to her first child. He named her this because she would become the mother of all humans and because she had the character traits of a mother. She was Mother from the start.

“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
Genesis 2:24

A married couple forms a whole new unit; a whole new family.

“Has not the Lord made them one? In flesh and spirit they are his. And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring.”
Malachi 2:15

Why did God invent marriage? 

First of all the Bible makes it plain that marriage is an object lesson for the church’s relationship with God. He is the Head and we are His helper.

Secondly, He made marriage because He wants godly babies. God loves babies. The only place you can get godly babies is from godly marriages. Heathens don’t produce godly children.

“Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows in the hand of a mighty man, so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.”
Psalms 127:3-5
Children are a gift, a reward, from God and the man that has lots of them is a blessed man who will influence the future.

The role of “mother” was chosen for you before the founding of the world.

It is God’s design.

Look out for number one.

Find your own path.

Set your own standards.

“And He died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves but for Him who died for them and was raised again…” 2 Corinthians 5:15
We don’t live for ourselves. We live for the One Who died for us.
  • “Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.” Mathew 10:39

I have known many women who said they wanted to be Someone, do something important. They have all ended up nameless, faceless, cogs in some big corporation. If they died in a car accident they would be replaced in two weeks and in a year no one would remember they existed.

They have made no lasting contribution to society as a whole or to the future.

But I can tell you about many women who have given up their dreams to do God’s will raising children who later become famous in there own sphere.

Mary Pride for example, gave up a promising career as an engineer to go home and birth nine babies...
  • and a dozen books,
  • three businesses,
  • four magazines,
  • and the most visited homeschool web site in the world.
She has made a tremendous difference in the lives of her children AND thousands of other families, including mine. None of this would have happened if she had tried to hold onto her “life.”

Besides this, if we give up our lives here on earth, we receive eternal life in heaven above.

Even if God never chooses to make us world famous, this eternal reward is worth sacrificing our lives for now.

Follow your heart

If it feels right do it

“The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?”  
Jeremiah 17:9
“He that trusteth in his own heart is a fool; but whoso walketh wisely, he shall be delivered” Proverbs 28:26

So much for following the heart.

Survival of the fittest

  • “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus:” Philippians 2:3-5
We are supposed to have the same attitude as Christ. He did not go to the cross for Himself. He didn’t need it. He was sinless. We are supposed to have the same attitude of self-sacrifice.

You are what you wear, drive, live in or vacation
He who dies with the most toys wins
Keep up with the Jones
  • “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight.” 1 Peter 3: 3- 4
  • “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will…” Romans 12:2
  • “For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, are not wise but he that glorieth, let him glory in the Lord” 2 Corinthians 10:12

We are more advanced today

We know better now

“What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun.” Ecclesiastes 1:9
Socialism, feminism, and atheism have been tried before many times; ancient Rome, ancient Greece, ancient China, etc. None of it is new. All of it has always ended with a lot of dead people.

And anyway, that statement is pure evolution.
  • “Thus saith the LORD, Stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask for the old paths, where is the good way, and walk therein, and ye shall find rest for your souls…” Jeremiah 6:16
The “old fashioned” paths- the ones patterned after the Bible- are the best.

Live for today

Have fun while you can

“For what is a (woman) profited, if (s)he shall gain the whole world, and lose (her child’s) own soul? Or what shall a (wo)man give in exchange for (her child’s) soul?” Mathew 16:25
  • “And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire.” Revelation 20:15
  • “His lord said unto him, ‘Well done, thou good and faithful servant: thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord.’” Matthew 25:21
There is an afterlife. You choose what neighborhood you will live in. Mother’s can nudge their children closer to heaven.


So what is a mother’s role Biblically?

It is to help her husband accomplish the job God gave him to do when He gave him children. Her job is to protect, teach and love her children.

“O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, thou that killest the prophets, and stonest them which are sent unto thee, how often would I have gathered thy children together, even as a hen gathereth her chickens under her wings, and ye would not!”
Mathew 24:37


What does a mother protect her children from?

First of all, she protects them from predators.
Historically predators were four legged. Today they have two legs. I know that any child can be kidnapped, but most predators will go for the easy kids first- the ones not being watched. 

They don’t want to deal with mommy for sure!

Last year we had “Stranger Danger” to our church to teach the children. I really liked the program and thought it taught my children some important things.

But I noticed that it was aimed at children walking to or from school- alone.

If mommies would take the trouble to walk with their children this major point of abduction would be removed. Or better yet, if mommy taught her children herself at home, it wouldn’t even be an issue.

I heard one woman call into a talk/advise show on the radio. Her daughter had had a “Stranger Danger” type of class at school and was now too scared to go to the park down the street alone. The show host told the mom to GO TO THE PARK WITH HER.

It is too much for a child to make them responsible for themselves. Mommies should be watching their children.

But the fact is that 90% of children who are abused, are abused by someone they know; someone close to them.

The number-one person most likely to abuse a child?

Mommy’s new boyfriend.

Many mothers are not only not protecting their children; they are putting their bedtime entertainment before their own children’s safety.

Mothers should protect their children’s health.
America is the most mal-nourished country on the planet. Not under-nourished; mal or miss nourished.

We eat enough calories to be fat but we don’t eat any nutrients necessary for growth of the body. It is like dumping a load of sawdust at the job site and telling you to build a house out of it!

Moms are not paying attention to what their children eat and are letting them form bad habits early on that will haunt them for the rest of their lives.

For example, did you know that rickets- a disease caused by lack of vitamin D- is on the rise again? Americans get their vita d from the sun and their milk. Today’s child spends all day inside at school and in front of the computer or TV, getting no sunlight. And moms are not making them drink their milk, so they are not getting enough vitamin D.

We have a new epidemic of rickets; a totally preventable disease.

Mothers should make their children exercise, too.
Whatever happened to “go outside and play”? It seems to have disappeared.

We lived on our street for four years before we found out there even was other children on the street! They all spend all their time inside. We still don’t know how many there are. They simply never go outside for us to count.

Mothers aren’t protecting children from ill health.

Mothers should protect their children’s mental health.
Children need to be loved and they need consistency in order to have maximum mental stability.

Babysitters do not love the children the way a mother does. They can’t. They would go mentally insane themselves if they tried. And they simply can’t respond immediately to the needs of every child in their care. Someone just has to sit in the dirty diaper, go hungry, or comfort himself until the babysitter gets to him.

But I have seen several stay at home moms who didn’t give their children this love either. They seemed to think their children needed no more than an adult in the house. They sat on their couch watching TV or surfing the net while the children were left to themselves.

The Bible says,

“A child left to himself bringeth his mother shame.” 

Children need an active, involved, present mother in order to be mentally healthy.

Daycare children are twice as likely to have ADHD and 15x’s more likely to have a mental illness than mommy-care children.

They just don’t grow up “right” with out someone who loves them taking care of them.

The average American child will witness over 200,000 acts of violence on television including 16,000 murders before age 18.

Innocence is mortally wounded in most children, too.

Moms should protect their children from violence and sexuality. What passes for normal today on TV would have been labeled pornography just a generation ago. We have become that desensitized.

I am not actually advocating a letter writing campaign to get Hollywood to make them put their clothes back on.

I am telling mom to turn the TV, movies and obscene video games OFF.

You control what happens in your own home.

You need to protect you child’s innocence.

Jesus said,

“If you look at a woman to lust after her, you have committed adultery.”

How many of our children are adulterers in their hearts before they are even adults?

Spiritual lives need protecting too.
There are two leading religions competing for our Christian children’s souls in America today;

Atheism and Environmentalism.

The first is actively being taught in our school- even many Christian schools- and on TV.
Not overtly, mind you. I never had a teacher stand up and say “there is no God” in school.

But they all followed the textbooks and did say such things as:

“we don’t know why the chimpanzees left the trees 20 million years ago…”

This kind of statement presumes Atheistic Evolution and trains the mind to think in evolutionary terms; to have evolutionary worldviews.

(How do they know chimps ever were in the trees in the first place? Because they ASSUME they evolved from primates who live in trees).

Sad to say, I only remember one teacher that was aware of this and tried to counter it, and I had many Christian teachers.

And of course, the media is just as bad or even worse.

Environmentalism is the other competing religion. Even some churches are now putting their emphasis on environmental issues instead of preaching sin and salvation.

“All for Mother Earth!”

This is nothing but ancient paganism; Earth Worship.

“They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator.”

God wants us to be good stewards of this planet, of course. But more and more people “worship” environmental issues, making them the measure of “good and evil," their priority in life.

“When I call to remembrance the unfeigned faith that is in thee, which dwelt first in thy grandmother Lois, and thy mother Eunice; and I am persuaded that in thee also.”
2 Timothy 1

Lois and Eunice have gone down in history because they taught a child.
This brings us to teaching.

Historically mothers did the majority of the teaching.

Reading was taught around the kitchen table by mommy while she worked. In this country, that produced literacy level of 98% compared to today’s 75%. Mommies just were and are better at teaching than strangers are.

But mommies taught a great deal more than just reading. They taught common sense, thinking skills, self-control, work ethic, and manners.

How many of you remember taking a class in self-control or common sense in school? These things can’t be taught in a class setting.

They are taught by mommy at home in the first five years.


Children are the same as their parents; little sinners

They are in need of careful training in order to teach them to follow God.
God told parents to

“...bring them up in the culture and education of the Lord.” He tells children to “obey your parents.” (Ephesians 6)

The role of a parent is a Godly institution. God could have had us have our children and then leave them like ostriches, but He didn’t.

In fact, humans are some of the most helpless, dependent babies on earth. God made them that way because our babies need us to teach them with our presence in those early years and their being so helpless makes us do that.

We parents are fallible and make plenty of mistakes, but we are the ones commanded by God to raise our children.

Not the government.
Not hired nannies.
Not the TV.

One observer of human kind stated that we will respond to God as adults the way we respond to our parents as children. A child’s view of God is formed in the first few years.
Mom is a child’s source of food, shelter, protection, and knowledge. She is “god” to him.
Now this will change very soon, of course, as he grows. But when he is an adult and you ask him what God is, he will respond “the supplier of all my needs, the protector, the source of all knowledge. The Boss.”

The newborn’s relationship with mom is an object lesson to us, also. That is how close God want us to be to Him; how reliant He wants us to be on Him.
Ask a child raised by babysitters or the TV what God is and they will answer,

“There is no God. I have always taken care of myself. It’s a dog eat dog world and only the strong survive. The squeaky wheel gets the grease. There is no loving ‘supreme being’.”


“He helps us do what WE want to do.”


“He runs the world but doesn’t really care what we do with our everyday lives as long as we don’t kill each other.”

If mommy isn’t there when baby needs her, he won’t believe God is there when he is an adult. Whether she is gone because of death, divorce, work or soap operas doesn’t matter.

(Adoption, by the way, provides an opportunity to undo the damage of a missing mommy. Adopted children often have a clear comparison of evil selfishness versus Godly giving.)

“That our sons may be as plants grown up in their youth; that our daughters may be as corner stones, polished after the similitude of a palace”

The same percent of Christian families as non-Christian families have working moms and 80% of Bible believing Christians send their children to public school (between 10 and 15% send them to private school).

Today, 85% of children raised in a supposedly Bible believing home leave church by the end of their first year of college.

Our children are going to hell.

Is there hope or is this just the norm?

After all

“Straight is the gate and narrow is the way and few there be that find it.”

No, this is not normal.

“Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it.”
Proverbs 22:6

Homeschool graduates, in answer to the question,

“Are you the same, almost the same, different or very different religion from your parents?” 


“The same” or “almost the same” 96% of the time.

These parents are raising Christians.

I think the difference is in the restoration of the family.

The average homeschool family has a supplier dad who is head of the household, a stay at home mom who nurtures and teaches the children, children who actually live in the house (instead of part time in institutions), and either home-church, ignore their church’s youth group, or are actively creating Family Integrated Churches (which have a 80% retention rate themselves. That 4% that are loosing their children say they are loosing them after involvement in youth groups and Sunday schools). 

Everyone is doing their God given job in their God given role. Their children are going to Heaven.

Traditional classes and daycare focus on the child (as a group); providing him with what he needs educationally.

A child at home gets his care WHILE other things are going on. He is not spoon-fed. He is an integral part of the real world.

Work ethic is taught while vacuuming the rug and washing dishes.
Thinking skills are taught while sorting laundry.
Manners are taught in the grocery store.
Self-control is taught all the time by example and discipline.

Really, all of these things are. Children who are warehoused or plopped in front of the TV or computer are not learning these things.

When are their moms supposed to teach them?

What time frame?

How can a daycare worker trying to keep eight children from killing each other teach these things?

How can a school teacher trying to control thirty children?

Too many mommies are too busy doing other things; “more important things”.

So today it is not unusual for children and young adults to honestly not know that it is rude to ask personal questions, interrupt, smart off at adults, and so much more.

Many young adults don’t know how to work or think. They think the world revolves around them and their desires (they really don’t know the difference between desires and needs) and it is getting worse.

Just ask anyone who has been in management for very long.

Selfishness, rudeness, laziness are on the rampage. And it is all mom’s fault. Well, not “all” mom’s fault. Many men won’t let their wives stay home.

Both men and women say

“But I, (sniff, sniff,) can’t afford a jet ski if mom stays home. I-I-I- can’t afford to retire early. I-I-I can’t afford to go to Europe. I-I-I-me-me-me self-self-self.”

What does the Bible say?
“I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.” 1Titus 5:14

A woman not doing these things gives the Adversary (Satan) occasion to speak reproachfully.

“That they (the older women) may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” Titus 2:4

If a woman doesn’t do these things, God’s word IS blasphemed.

“She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household [are] clothed with scarlet…. she looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.” Proverbs 31:21, 27

The good woman cares for her home and has nothing to fear.

“And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.” Deuteronomy 6:6

In other words, every waking minute.

“I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep. The hired hand is not the shepherd who owns the sheep. So when he sees the wolf coming, he abandons the sheep and runs away. Then the wolf attacks the flock and scatters it. The man runs away because he is a hired hand and cares nothing for the sheep. I am the good shepherd; I know my sheep and my sheep know me” John 10:11-14

Hollywood, books, magazines, the Internet, and, of course, daycares and traditional schools are all hired hands. No one cares for a child like someone who loves him- mommy.

“Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men do to you do ye even so to them. For this is the law and the prophets.” Mathew 7:12

If you were a baby, small child, or even a teenager…

Who would you want caring for you?

“Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’ The King will reply, ‘I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.’” Mathew 25:37

Puts a whole new perspective on changing diapers, doesn’t it? Changing your baby’s diaper is accounted to you in heaven as changing Christ’s diaper. WOW!

“I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” Philippians 4:13

“For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” Mathew 11:30

The world’s burden is heavy. You always have to be the richest, prettiest, and smartest. God’s burden- cuddling babies and playing with toddlers- is easy.

“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.” Mathew 6:33

“But my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ.” Philippians 4:19

“The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.” John10:10

Following God’s commands will bring you the abundant life, not following your own or the world’s ideas. Caring for your children like God tells you to is the path to true happiness.

You are important to your child.
Not because of the money you bring home, but because your presence tells him he is loved, teaches him how to act and how to think by example and guidance from you.

You are raising warriors to worship at the feet of your King.
Your child needs your protection. No one else can do your job, no matter how much you pay them. They are not mommy. They don’t love your child like you do.

“Casting all your care upon Him; for He careth for you.” 1 Peter 5:7

Trust God.

Women, it is time for you to quit just having babies

It is time to start being